I’m a believer that real, lasting change is just moments away for ALL of us. I know first-hand how our thoughts can keep us trapped in the past, or the future, and leave us unable to see what we have right in front of us. I know this now.
My life used to look good on paper and maybe on social media, but it didn’t feel good. And after suffering a tragedy, my shaky foundation crumbled and I was left feeling hopeless and isolated. I had to hit rock bottom before getting the help that would forever change my life for the better.
After I found therapy, I became a believer in CHANGE is POSSIBLE. And that lead me on my path to becoming a certified Life Coach. And once you start understanding how our minds work, it only gets more interesting. So I went on to be trained in subconscious transformation (think NLP, hypnosis, rapid transformation therapy, etc).
My husband died by suicide on October 14, 2014. I still remember every detail as if it were yesterday.
It’s now been 7 years ago, and I believe I am truly on my best path now. But it’s been a long road. I think I may have taken the long way around, but I finally feel like I have arrived, on the other side. Don’t get me wrong there is still bad moments, hours, days and, well not so much weeks anymore.
The first few days following his death I was in shock. There were so many decisions to be made, I was in DECISION FATIGUE for sure. After the shock wore off, and that’s when INDECISION came into play. And OVERWHELM was the constant state I was in. I was scared of everything; and my feelings were constantly being hurt by people that were just trying to help. I would be upset if my friends didn’t invite me to an outing but would be appalled when they did invite me. No one could do anything right by me. Then I ISOLATED myself (we all know how good that feels), I ran away from everything I thought was hurting me; friends, memories, the house...
I started therapy and that definitely got me to a point where I could breathe again. But I still believed my “BEST” life was behind me. I still didn’t have a positive outlook on my future.
After a few years of just getting by and going through the motions, but still feeling DISCONNECTED, I started searching for help. Life had to be better than this. I started reading books on grief and finding some hope that just maybe I could have a better life. Then I found LIFE COACHING, and what a difference it’s made in my life. I found purpose and fulfilment. I learned that I was creating a lot of my own suffering, and whatever we focus on grows. I learned to focus on what I want rather than what I don’t want. This is what I want for you! I want you to see that your best life is right now. I want you to know it's never too late to create purpose, fulfillment, and deeper connections in your life.